Healthy Eating and
Healthy Living
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The Art of Goal Setting; Stay Focused, Stay Realistic, Stay Small and Stay Active

Healthy Eating Should be on the Tip of Every Trainer's Tongue

Putting Your Body Where Your Mouth Is

Vegetarianism: A Sign of Health or Dysfunction?

An Unconventional Look at "Conventional" Healthy Eating






Healthy Eating and Healthy Living


The Art of Goal Setting: Stay Focused, Stay Realistic, Stay Small and Stay Active


The psychotherapy process is basically about making changes. The capacity to make changes is what sets us apart as human beings. It is what keeps us young, vital and contunally learning. Successful goal setting provides the warp and weft of constructive change.

The art of setting successful goals is challenging in its simplicity. Three tips to successful change are:

  1. Stay realistic. You have to crawl before you can walk.
  2. Think small. Losing fifty pounds is a heck of alot harder than losing one pound every week or two for one year.
  3. Put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward. Translate your intentions into actions, behaviors, things to do.

Recalculate goals through observation; observe through doing....it's the best way to discern where you have been,where you are going, and how best to get there.




Healthy Eating Should be on the Tip of Every Trainer's Tongue


Whether online or in the flesh, "personal" training needs to be about the total person. To be physically fit, a person must be healthy both inside as well as out. Bodily fitness requires healthy eating, as well as exercise, to improve physical, cognitive and emotional functioning and to avoid behavioral compulsions around food and exercise that can lead to onset of eating disorders and/or activity disorders. Healthy eating is about moderation and balance. Eating disorders, as well as the exercise that typically accompanies them, are too frequently excessive.

Eating disorders and complications thereof, kill and maim. These hidden diseases are more likely to show up in health clubs and gyms than in doctor's offices. With eating disorders, as difficult to identify as they are, coaches and trainers are often the best diagnosticians. The coach who is attentive to eating lifestyle and behaviors, through dietary counsel and possible referral to health professionals, may save a life and will certainly improve life quality.

Look for these signs in your trainees:

  • They may feel the compulsion to talk about food and eating,
  • They may express concerns about being fat even if he or she is thin or of normal weight,
  • They may admit to compulsions and excesses around exercise and other spheres in ilfe.

The trainer who is self-aware and knowledgeable about his or her own personal body image issues or excesses in eating and exercise
will be more attuned to detecting predisposing signs in others.




Putting Your Body Where Your Mouth Is


How does one put knowledge into practice around eating and exercise? Here is the process I have watched and encouraged in my clients over the decades.

First, familiarize oneself with what the knowledge is; Understand that eating healthfully takes more than knowledge about how and what to eat. You have heard the expression that as people live, so they die. Similarly, I believe that as people live, so they eat and exercise.

  • Healthy eating and healthy living are about knowing who we are and what we need, and how to get those needs met.
  • Healthy eating and healthy living are about making a commitment to valuing ourselves and our priorites, our bodies, our capacity to think and solve problems responsibly and accurately.
  • Healthy eating is about sound decision-making.
  • Healthy eating and exercise, like healthy living, is balanced, flexible, and devoid of excess.

Second, empowerment is the ability to act on one's knowledge;

  • Be motivated. Visualize positive consequences, then let those consequences be carrots.
  • Provide structure in one's life around food, around work, around recreation. Out of structure comes freedom, consciousness, self-awareness and self-appraisal. With that comes the capacity to discern options.
  • Establish accountability for yourself. Find a support system in other people, in a journal, in professional help.
  • Make every step forward a small step. Make every step do-able. Actively seek out successes.
  • Recognize that failure provides an optimistic opportunity for trying something new that may work better.
  • Move forward. We are on a fast spinning earth and cannot stand still. Either we move forward or fall behind.





Vegetarianism: A Sign of Health or Dysfunction?


With “meat” becoming the new four letter word in our vernacular, and the “degree of chic” corresponding to the extent of meat/dairy/fat restriction amongst out teenagers, our kids need some parental vigilance in making such pivotal and potentially life-altering lifestyle decisions.

Parents beware the child’s use of restrictive eating as a forerunner to, or mask covering up, the onset of an eating disorder. Beware the child who turns to vegetarianism as a convenient and acceptable way to lose or control weight, to establish a sense of control over life, or independence and separateness from parents and family. On the other hand, vegetarianism can represent a very healthy lifestyle when taken on in a thoughtful, respectful manner. Sometimes, “A cigar is just a cigar.”

Parents must look to the child’s motives for taking on the responsibility of this commitment. Indeed, to maintain a balanced vegetarian diet with all of the food groups represented is not an easy task at any life stage. Kids who do not understand the full impact of what healthy eating is and how to attain it would benefit from purposeful educational input from parents.




An Unconventional Look at "Conventional" Healthy Eating


Conventional wisdom about what "healthy eating" is has clearly gotten away from most of us...so much so that in our society today, "normal" eating is no longer healthy eating, and in too many cases falls into the category of disordered eating. 40 to 50 percent of women on college campuses today are reported to be disordered eaters. Most unfortunately, only 50% of American families eat dinner together, and skipping meals has become an acceptable norm. Only 25% of us eat breakfast in the morning.

With ever greater numbers of parents in the workplace, and at the gym, and with increasing numbers of people misguided in their belief that fat free eating and other forms of restrictive eating is healthy eating, kids are left to fend for themselves for food and meals. At the same time, fast foods are becoming increasingly accessible and affordable.

It is not surprising that in our society today, the average age of eating disorder onset has slipped from 13 to 9, and that obesity in both kids and adults is on the rise. Five million kids in the U.S. today are obese, with another six million on the cusp. To counter this phenomenon, it is time to rethink the myths we live by, and return to some familiar and age-old conventions about eating that used work and that still would, if people would take another look!




About Abigail H. Natenshon
Abigail H. Natenshon, MA LCSW has been a psychotherapist in private practice specializing in the treatment of eating disordered individuals and their families for the past 28 years. She is co-founder and director of Eating Disorder Specialists of Illinois; A Clinic without Walls, and the author of When Your Child Has an Eating Disorder: A Step-by-Step Workbook for Parents and Other Caregivers (Jossey Bass, San Francisco, October, 1999). Visit her web sites at www.empoweredparents.com and www.empoweredkidZ.com


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