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Jesse's Mom
Speaks Out
By
Susan Sorger
My son Jesse just turned
13 and he is the picky
eater. I recognized his
picky problem as a Sensory
Integration Issue years ago
but the "experts" at the
time disagreed with me and
told me it was just shtick.
Mostly because the sensory
stuff was just around food
smell, texture and taste.
I have recently found an OT
who agreed that this is a
sensory issue and we
have started to work with
her. She has also indicated
that my very thin son
has general low muscle tone
and that is evidenced by all
kinds of things
including that he pushes too
hard with his pencil when
writing in order to
have control and his arm
fatigues easily. He has poor
fine motor dexterity
and will probably tie his
shoelaces bunny ear style
for the rest of his
life. This is relevant
because she feels that the
poor muscle tone also
extends to his tongue which,
as a muscle, is responsible
for discerning
food sensations in the
mouth. We have been working
on a series of exercises to
strengthen his tongue to
lessen the gag reflex and to
increase the sensory
information that can be
gathered by the tongue. Very
slow process. We are also
going to try "odor exposure"
tests where we place
extracts like vanilla,
cinnamon, almond and so on
in little containers and
swab them with a cotton
ball. Then the cotton ball
is taken close to the
nostrils. We want to see how
long it takes for him to
acclimate to the strong
pleasant odors. We are
working on making him feel
comfortable with strong
odors and will eventually
introduce more cooked food
odors.
What he is refusing to do is
to do any of the blind taste
test. Jesse is
also very visual and makes
decisions on what he will
like or not just by the
look. We first wanted to do
the blindfold testing using
only food that he
likes but he refuses to
trust any of us so we can't
even work our way to the
part where we introduce new
foods that we have described
to him.
The OT is very expensive.
$100 weekly. Going once a
week is useless unless we do
daily follow up exercises
and that has been difficult.
We found a "tutor" who works
with an educational
consultant. The educational
consultant (find the right
school for your unusual
child: Jesse is
brilliant but disorganized
and scattered and doesn't do
well in a school
where there are too many
kids in the class and many
of them with behavior
problems. He is also a bit
of a "geek" with computer
and science interests
and we fear going to the
very social local high
school may not be a good
idea for him) So this
educational consultant is
very experienced in kids
like Jesse and many flavors
of disorders, shtick, etc.
She completely
understands the food thing
as she runs in to it ALL THE
TIME!
She found us a tutor who is
working with Jesse twice a
week for keyboarding skills
so that he can use a laptop
in school instead of
writing. She is also
addressing organization
concepts. Most important,
She met with the OT and is
working with Jesse on the
tongue exercises, food
experiments, learning to
pack his own lunches and so
on. We no longer have to pay
the OT for the weekly 1 hour
session. We pay just a
little more for the tutor to
come twice a week for 1-1/2
hour sessions.
Jesse is more apt to work
with and listen to a
stranger than to me. The
educational specialist
suggested that we make
creative use of other times.
For instance there never
seems to be any time to
schedule the tongue
exercises. She said to do
them in the car when we are
driving somewhere.
Good use of down time.
Any way. I hope some of this
rambling is of use. So
far, although Jesse
is willing, we have not
found one new food that he
will eat.
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Jesse's OT has mentioned
an exercise for the tongue
to diminish the GAG reflex.
This is how it works. Take a
teaspoon and press down on
your tongue in the front and
use your tongue to push back
against it. Fight the
downward pressure with your
tongue. Count 5. Move the
spoon further in and repeat.
Further again but not so far
that it will cause gagging
and repeat. Now turn the
spoon on it's side and push
against the side of the
tongue and again, fight it
with the tongue. Same with
the other side. Repeat this
3 times a day.
Now, why are you doing this?
The OT noted that there was
a marked preference by Jesse
to eat crunchy foods. She is
working with another child
who prefers only baby foods
and although the nature of
the sensitivity is
different, the tongue
problem is the same.
Here is her explanation: The
function of the nervous
system is to PROTECT
and to DISCRIMINATE. In
order to be able to
discriminate in a socially
acceptable manner ( "Gee,
this doesn't taste very
good, I think I'll just
get a napkin and get rid of
it. OR, I'll swallow but I
won't take another
bite" the nervous system
(read tongue in this
instance) must be able to
gather the required tactile
and taste information from
the food. If the
tongue cannot gather this
information, the nervous
system immediately goes into
alert into a defensive mode
and says "PROTECT" . (read
gag and spit. A physically
weak tongue, which is a
muscle, cannot function
properly to give the nervous
system this information.
Now I couldn't understand
this at all, so she gave me
another physical
example. She provided me
with a pen and asked me to
pick it up using and
extremely limp-wristed
barely there, kind of hold
with the tips of the
fingers. She asked if it
clearly registered on my
brain as "pen" and I had
to admit that it was hard to
tell from the "feel" what it
was. Then she
gave me a much heavier and
thicker object that was long
and narrow and asked me to
pick it up using the same
limp wristed hold. Now it
"felt" like what it looked
like. The item that had more
"definition" registered on a
weak
neurological link, but the
one with less, did not.
She explained that that is
what is going on with Jesse.
He requires a
crunchy French fry because
it is only through these
defined crunchy type
foods that his weak tongue
can pick up the information
it needs to know what he is
eating. Strengthening the
tongue, increases the
definition of a
greater number of foods.
I never would have
guessed that Jesse has a
"weak tongue". I had read
about this sort of thing as
a reason for a problem with
feeding but I kept
imagining a person that had
some sort of palsy and was
visibly impaired
physically. Jesse was so
utterly "normal". Except now
I think back to how
very long it took him to eat
his meals as a toddler. He
would sit at the
table for 45 minutes.
Actually he lost interest
and would want to leave
(eating that long is really
boring) so we started
turning on the TV just to
keep him eating. When we
pressed with the spoon on
Jesse's tongue and he
insisted he was pushing
back, I felt no resistance
what so ever. When I tried
it on the OT, you could feel
the resistance.
Other exercises for the
tongue include using a huge
wad of gum and shaping it to
blow bubbles, over and over
again. Putting some peanut
butter on the hard upper
palate and using the tongue
to work it off. Or placing a
sticky candy or small
marshmallow there and using
the tongue to work away at
it until it has dissolved.
Next Exercise: This one
causes pressure on the hard
upper palate (just
before it goes up into the
caverns of the mouth) and
has 2 benefits. It
exercises the nervous system
by placing a marked
sensation where it has not
been accustomed to getting
it and I causes a temporary
numbing effect so that new
foods are not as shocking
when introduced.
About 5 to 10 minutes before
each meal, regardless of
what is being eaten,
use the thumb of one hand to
press firmly on that area of
the palate
starting from one side and
moving along the semi circle
of the palate to the
other side. Go back and
forth and back then remove
finger and swallow.
Repeat 3 times then eat
something in about 5-10
minutes. If a new food is
being introduced, bite and
taste the food on the side
of the tongue where it
is far less sensitive.
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I personally have been
fighting the contention that
this is in Jesse's "head" as
everyone has been trying to
tell me. I've been trying to
make people see that this is
physical. I don't want to
diminish that by admitting
that I believe there is
indeed a psychological
component. It is impossible
to have so many bad
experiences with food
without having some sort of
psychological repercussions.
I think that the fear of
having a gag reflex or of
tasting something repugnant
set's up a mind set that
prevents any trial of new
foods. It's understandable
but is a cyclic problem. The
physical problem feeds the
psychological which feeds
the physical ad infinitum.
I saw a TV documentary
recently about a program to
help phobic people. The
subjects were a group of
people whose fear of spiders
reached phobic proportions.
In one case a woman had a
single horrid experience as
a child that created a
lifelong phobia. It was a 4
week intensive program that
began with some sort of
brain scan. Certain dark
areas in the brain were
noted. Over the 4 weeks the
subjects were introducing to
progressively stressful
exposures. First just
touching a photo of a spider
caused a phobic reaction.
Once that was mastered,
touching video screens with
moving spiders was required
until the subjects were
ready to share space with
tiny garden variety house
spiders. The program ended
with the touching of a
de-poisoned tarantula. About
100% of the subjects were
able to touch it after the 4
weeks and some 80% were able
to hold it. The most
interesting thing was that
the brain scans taken after
the 4 weeks showed a marked
difference in the brain.
Many of the dark areas had
been eradicated. The
moderator said something to
the effect that "a person's
will, or decision to conquer
his fears, caused a physical
change in the functioning of
the brain".
I found this most
encouraging. It seems to me
that the negative
experiences of this group of
picky eaters has definitely
created a phobic response
overlaying the physical
problem. I noted that in
many books on the subject, a
multidisciplinary approach
was suggested. I asked the
OT if perhaps Jesse would
also need a behavior
therapist. She suggested we
try and conquer as much of
the physical end of the
problem as we could to begin
with and then we have more
to work with when and if, we
would need some behavior
therapy.
It's an awfully long winded
way to say that the only way
to get over this is to make
up your mind that you really
want to, and are willing to
be exposed to some intense
discomfort to do so. The OT
says that we shouldn't
expect that Jesse or anyone
with SID will ever have a
sophisticated palette or
even be a "normal" eater.
However we can get him a
long way into adding new
foods and more easily
participating in a greater
number of social occasions.
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People with Autism,
Aspergers Syndrome and Non
Verbal Learning
Disorders often have SID to
some varying degree.
Somewhere in my readings I
picked up that it is about
60% of the time. There have
been some 20 genes
identified as the ones
responsible for the full
blown worst case scenario of
Autism with every other
attendant disorder on the
list including SID, ADD etc.
While we are often told that
these disorders can be
thought to be related to one
another along a spectrum
from mild, such as a non
specific learning disorder,
up the spectrum to ADD
further along to Aspergers,
then Autism and somewhere in
there is NVLD and Pervasive
Developmental Disorder. But
the truth is that it is not
an easily traced spectrum.
It is more a cluster of
traits and, depending on
which of the 20 genes are
affected, you can get all
sorts of overlaps of traits
with some belonging to the
lower end of the spectrum
and some to the higher.
What the medical community
has generally failed to
recognize up to this
point is that there is no
reason why only one of those
genes can be
defective, namely the one
for SID regarding food.
So, I would expect that
there is every reason to
believe that someone who
specializes in treating that
aspect of Autism could help
someone with just
the SID if they were capable
of separating out the
treatments. That being
said, my son's OT works with
all manner of neurological
disorders, amongst
them, Autism. These are the
very professionals that you
are asking after
Emily. The neurological
disorder is the specialty of
the OT and not the
psychiatrist. I think that
Autism is attacked from a
team approach with
many different specialists
involved including the OT.
Would "Picky Eaters"
benefit from a "team" of
specialists? I wager they
would. Can we get them
to treat same given the long
waiting lists for Autism
patients? Covered by
some medical plan? It would
be really nice, but I doubt
it at this point.
Susan Sorger Entourage Arts
http://www.entouragearts.com
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I have
spent the last 11 years
trying to get a grip on how
to help my son.
I have come across so many
ignorant and arrogant
professionals who have led
us down the wrong route and
who have really been
detrimental to getting the
understanding that my son
needs. Add to that the
legions of parents and
friends who think they know
it all, all of them,
professionals and lay
person's alike, clucking
over me telling me their
definitive answer to this
problem. All of them, all
of them, all of them come up
with one of the
following: you must force
feed, you must punish, you
must not allow/enable, you
must provide consequences.
They all imply that somehow
it is my fault and I have
been remiss as a parent and
I have "spoiled" my son.
None of them understand that
this is a disorder. All of
them think that I
have played a part in
allowing this to happen. It
took me years to
research, understand and
come to believe that this is
a real physical
condition. I can't help it,
but now whenever any medical
type professional
looks down at me from their
lofty position and states
unequivocally that it
is completely psychological
and that I can change it
through appropriate
discipline, I bristle and
write them off as an
uninformed dolt.
To have someone in this
group suggest the very same
thing, plays right into
their hands. Those people
don't need any more
ammunition in their hands to
confirm what they believe.
Susan Sorger Entourage Arts
http://www.entouragearts.com
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You, Susan, are
amazing! So insightful,
but all too hard on
yourself!!
This is not about you,
per se, but you as a
PARENT, striving to find
the most effective way
to handle the problem
with and for Jesse....as
well as for yourself and
your family because,
guess what? These
are FAMILY
problems. Eating
dysfunctions have
interpersonal
ramifications,
implicitly or
explicitly, a reality
that simply cannot be
avoided. In other words,
as a parent, you have to
be involved in one way
or another, like it or
not.
You are doing the best
you can do, which is all
you can do (and I might
mention, the entire
group is benefiting from
what you do and say,
big-time. Thank you for
being the generous and
open person that you
are.) What you
demonstrate here is an
astute, sensitive, and
flexible capacity to
assess a situation,
yourself, and your son's
needs, and the courage
to try out
creative alternative
solutions to enhance
outcomes. That, Susan,
is problem-solving
at its very best.
Here you have become a
positive role model not
only for parenting a
child with SID, but for
accommodating all
the glitches and
well-intentioned, though
less-than-successful efforts that
are part of normal part
of daily living for us
all, no matter who we
are and how we eat...and
you are apologizing for
it! Don't hesitate to
speak to your son about
what you have learned
about him, about
yourself, and about this
dynamic process of
effective problem-solving
if and when the occasion
presents itself. It
represents such
important learning.
As human beings, no
matter what our eating
lifestyle, having to
confront and deal with
problems large and small
is a regular part of our
daily diet...what
separates the men from
the boys is HOW WE USE
OURSELVES IN DISCOVERING
THE MOST EFFECTIVE
SOLUTIONS. The more
available and open
you can be to new ideas
and the exploration of
new approaches, the
better you will be at
fixing what needs
repair. And that's
the bottom line.....not
being "right." Mistakes
are life's way of
offering us the capacity
to seek a better way.
I tip my hat to you.
Best Regards,
Abbie
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